You know what’s coming because all the signs are there. You’re felling close. You touch, kiss. He whispers words in your ear and you feel his breath against your neck. His hands travel across your skin. You work his shirt away from his body while his fingers pull down the zipper on your dress. And then…

And then what? Have you had the condom talk yet? Is there a condom around? Should you put it on him or watch him put it on himself? Maybe he’s already wearing it (little chance of that).

The heat of the moment. The chance of throwing caution and good sense to the wind and foregoing the condom. Or doing it without the condom or exchanging “fluids.” (Certainly a very sexy option but requiring a lot of good communication and even some interesting accoutrement. ) The latter means worrying and testing or denial. Now that’s no fun.

While safer sex, or as I like to call it, “safer passion,” does require planning, so does a rich and diverse sex life. And spontaneity can be part of the planning. Safer sex can be a drudge or just one more area to explore when being intimate. And for a woman, it can provide an opportunity to truly explore her sexuality.

That’s one of the themes I explore in my blog, and I’d love to learn your ideas about what works and what might work better. Leave your thoughts below, and join the safer sex conversation. Or there will be other opportunities, if you care.